I’m wondering if you’re feeling the intensity this year – and particularly this month – about pretty much everything in your life. It feels as though everyone’s going through major “stuff” right now, in whatever aspect of their lives that are the biggest trigger-point. It can be money, career, marriage or divorce, family, health – just everything.

And when I listen to other people’s conversations at coffee shops or while they’re walking with a friend on a hike, relationships of all shapes and forms are a primary point of conversation.

And where does our training and messaging regarding how to relate come from? Like it or not, our family of origin – of course.

I’d like to share this with you. As you’re potentially evaluating whatever “issues” you’re dealing with at the moment, take a minute to do this simple exercise.

In Numerology, your given last name (or family name) provides insights into your inherited traits and into the lessons that your family as a group is here to experience and master.

Take your last name and give each letter a numerical value, as indicated below.

1 – A, J, S
2 – B, K, T
3 – C, L, U
4 – D, M, V
5 – E, N, W
6 – F, O, X
7 – G, P, Y
8 – H, Q, Z
9 – I, R

Let’s use Jimmy Fallon as an example. This must be the actual family name given on the birth certificate. And we’re working only with the last name.

F A L L O N
6 1 3 3 6 5

6+1+3+3+6+5 = 24; 2 + 4 = 6

FALLON holds the lessons of the number 6.

See below for very brief descriptions of what your family name brings to you in terms of inherited traits.

NUMBER 1:

As a family, you’re working on developing leadership abilities, healthy self-esteem, independence, originality, innovation, and courage.

As a family you may struggle with narcissism, fear of failure, or dependence.

NUMBER 2:

As a family, you’re working on developing diplomacy, loving relationships, being a team player, harmony, balance, and patience.

As a family you may struggle with over-sensitivity, being a “doormat,” passivity, or combativeness.

NUMBER 3:

As a family, you’re working on developing healthy communication, emotional expression, optimism, joy, and inspiring creativity.

As a family you may struggle with moody emotional highs and lows, inability to speak up for yourself, or being critical of others.

NUMBER 4:

As a family, you’re working on developing practicality, security, stability, working hard to achieve goals, embracing well-ordered processes to build a strong foundation in your life.

As a family you may struggle with being inflexible, irresponsible, or a victim of self-imposed – and other forms of – limitation.

NUMBER 5:

As a family, you’re working on developing adaptability, progressive thought and action, freedom, adventurousness, and fearlessness.

As a family you may struggle with restlessness, overwhelming fear, or excessive behaviors.

NUMBER 6:

As a family, you’re working on developing a nurturing attitude, service, responsibility, love of home and family, justice, and beautifying your surroundings.

As a family you may struggle with co-dependence, self-righteousness, or feelings of superiority.

NUMBER 7:

As a family, you’re working on developing your spiritual nature, analysis and research, wisdom, and higher thought.

As a family you may struggle with perfectionism, isolation, or superficiality.

NUMBER 8:

As a family, you’re working on developing achievement in the material world, making money, mastery of self, achievement, success, and higher ethics.

As a family you may struggle with ruthlessness, controlling behaviors, or scarcity/victimization.

NUMBER 9:

As a family, you’re working on developing unconditional love, universal brotherhood/sisterhood, selflessness, sensitivity, creativity, and healing.

As a family you may struggle with family enmeshment, intolerance, or gullibility.

NUMBER 11/2:

See the Number 2 – then add the intensity of the Master Number 11, which brings a mission to inspire and uplift humanity. As a family, you’re working on your intuitive skills, heightened creativity, potential for fame, and inspired leadership. And as a family you might struggle with impatience, inflated ego, or being high-strung.

NUMBER 22/4:

See the Number 4 – then add the intensity of the Master Number 22, which brings a mission to build and organize projects that benefit the everyday lives of humanity. As a family, you’re working on building things of lasting value that benefit people in a practical way. And as a family you might struggle with stubbornness, inflexibility, or an inability to accept others’ faults.

NUMBER 33/6:

See the Number 6 – then add the intensity of the Master Number 33, which brings a mission to inspire and uplift humanity. As a family, you’re working on joyfully acting on higher forms of love, forgiveness, and joy. And as a family you might struggle with depression, over-giving, or self-righteousness.